30 Things We'd Tell Our 14-Year-Old Selves

This year we both turn 21. We’ve lived together for a year and a half now and are pretty close, we share basically everything – including our mood swings. Deep conversations (or DMC’s if you’d prefer) are a common habit of ours and today we found ourselves compiling a list of things we would tell our 14-year-old selves. 

So here it is, agree or disagree? Can you think of more? Leave a comment, we’d love to know!

1. Pull your skirt down

2. Stop using dream matte mousse

3. Throw your Jane Norman bag away. Now

4. You really don't need 6 layers of mascara

5. It is not OK to have holes in your tights

6. Cross-the-body bags will give you severe back ache in a few years

7. Lunchtime is for eating not a chance to re-do your make-up

8. Go and get your eyebrows done professionally. You will suffer for the over-plucking

9. Don’t let the sole of your shoe fall off before you buy new ones

10. Your mum is right. That friend will screw you over

11. Quality over quantity. This refers to friends, layers of mascara…

12. Eat as much pizza as possible, fast metabolism is a temporary gift

13. Stop moaning. That homework is not real work, do it and then go out.

14. You do not love him

15. Friendships aren't based on time. Just because you've known them the longest, doesn't mean they are the most important.

16. Do not stop playing netball just because your friends have

17. Do not stop anything just because your friends have

18. That lip gloss does not make you look “sassy”

19. Your mum’s cooking is not crap

20. Stop holding your fringe with a clip

21. On the subject of fringes, a gap is not the end of the world

22. Stick-on fake nails do not look real. At all

23. Claire’s Accessories does not count as jewellery

24. And Charlie does not count as perfume

25. Lambrini is not wine and Vodka should be mixed

26. Only speaking over text does not count as a relationship. You will not call him an “ex” when you’re twenty.

27. Your natural hair colour is fine

28. Be prepared for your friends to really let you down. But chill, you will find friends that really do care

29. Not everyone sticks to “treat others how you like to be treated”. Remember that.

30. And lastly, relax. You’re doing better than what you think you are

It's Ok To Have A Bad Day

We've all been there, you wake up and your mood instantly seems off. There's no real reason for it, but you just know that it's going to be a bad day. 

Yesterday Kirsti tweeted "I've had the worst day in the history of worst days and it's not even 3pm". If you looked at yesterday and tried to pinpoint why this was, you would find no evidence. Apart from the fact we missed a lecture because we couldn't find anywhere to park (this was a one off, promise!) - it was a pretty normal day. 

Nothing negative had happened. No arguments, nothing. We even had a pretty decent dinner (enchiladas, nachos and salad, if you're wondering). We realised we had spent the whole day punishing ourselves for being in a bad mood, which as you can guess, didn't exactly make us feel any better. 

Why are we sat here trying to force ourselves into a good mood? Emotions are temporary. They are feelings. They aren't a way of life. Just because we are not sat here crying with laughter every moment of the day, doesn't mean we are bad people.

We all have these days. You wake up and the mood is already engrained in you. Then you set off into the world with this mind set, making every little thing seem to contribute to making your day worse. Things that normally wouldn't phase you are suddenly the worst things that could happen and you find yourself angry, demotivated and annoyed at just about everything. 

You start to get annoyed at your attitude, telling yourself to 'snap out of it', but really if you could then you would. 

The point is that it's ok. You're allowed to have a bad day, and by letting yourself have one you are actually helping yourself in the long run. Although it feels like the bad mood started from nowhere, it probably didn't and there is a reason for why you feel the way that you do, even if you don't know what it is. So just accept it, and instead focus on how to move on from it. 

Different methods work for different people. You have to think about you, and what is going to be best. Need to sweat it out in the gym? Go for it. just want to sit in bed, eat, watch Netflix and have a cry? We chose to spend a couple of hours in bed watching Friends eating homemade cookies, but whatever floats your boat - do it, and don't feel guilty for it.

Too often our biggest critic is ourselves, and we make our mood so much worse. Give yourself a down day (or a couple if that's what it takes) and just take a step back to figure out what you need. If you don't know, or what you need can't be achieved then what are you going to do about it? Take time to fix your attitude, and you will make the problem better.

It's ok to have a bad day, but it's not ok for it to turn into a bad life. So do what needs be, without any guilt, and remember the downer is only temporary.